I’m about to link a thread that in and of itself is very disturbing. Being a stepmother myself and living in what I recently learned was termed a “blended family” for some time now, I had no idea that there could be this many stepparents out there who harbored outright hatred of their stepchildren. Not until in my research I stumbled on to this thread – actually, I have to say this “forum” because this particular thread is only one of several with the attitudes voiced in this forum entitled “Stepfamily Forum”.
Then within that thread I’m going to be discussing a specific post. I want to say upfront that when I read it there was enough that made me fear it COULD be Terri Horman that I did, in fact, submit questions to a contact who I asked if Kaine Horman could answer in order to determine if it could be Terri. Kaine’s answers to those questions led me to believe this is NOT Terri Horman, but I can’t help but point out that somewhere out there is some child in a dangerous situation. And if the person who posted this comment takes issue with my opinion on that….they can go suck eggs.
I’m sharing this for a couple of reasons. To show that there ARE stepparents out there who are not mature enough and not emotionally stable enough to be stepparents. As a stepparent I can tell you that I take issue with anyone who wants to try to cast stepparents – in some blanket stereotypical fashion – as evil people. I think a person is either bad or good – but not by label. So there are bad parents (note Teghan’s mother, or Casey Anthony) just like there are bad stepparents. But I also share this with you because I wonder…could this voice a possible motive behind Terri’s thinking – IF she was, in fact, involved in Kyron’s disappearance? Read these words carefully and consider that question.
From this thread on “iVillage Garden Web: The internet’s garden & home community” in the forum “Stepfamily”. Thread title “Can’t accept my Stepson”.
http://www.thathomesite.com/forums/load/step/msg011826118329.html?60
Approximately 3/4′s of the way down the page a post by “stepmom2kids” posted on Saturday, March 13, 2010 at 18:35:
I hate my step kid too. Its not pleasant to think of your husband with another woman making babies, much less having to care for them yourself as a free babysitter, and all the bull that comes with it. Out in the wild, hippos, lions and various other mammals will kill these offspring. I can’t stand my step kid, and he lives with us :(
Anyways, if I didn’t know him I’d say he’s a very sweet kid, that has a speech disorder/learning disorder, and as long as I wouldn’t have to be around him for extended periods of time, I’d like him, or be indifferent. But since he’s my step kid and I’m his main caretaker, I harbor a lot of resentment, that I worry may harm my health carrying all of this secret hate around, or that it will come around band bite me in the ass somehow later on. It is very unnatural having step kids, very unnatural to love them, it goes against nature is how it feels anyway. I have often wished he’d get out of my life, but we can’t afford to pay child support and I have my own daughter to worry about. If we pay more than we can afford each month, how am I going to take care of my own daughter? That would agonize me much more than gritting my teeth everyday and enduring my stepson’s presence. I too would get up and do the gig if I only had to have him 3weeks out of the year. I used to wish that he would choke to death, and one day at a buffet it actually almost happened, man, did I regret that wish, I cried so much, I felt so sorry for his helpless little face as he chocked for air. I couldn’t have lived with the guilt if he’s dad wouldn’t of been there to save his life. Now I just wish he’d get abducted by aliens or something, Just kidding. He’s okay sometimes, but usually talks like a retard behind his years. I think he has some kind of learning disability that makes him very good with numbers, but a social retard (in my spiteful opinion). According to the dad he is a genius…Pff.. HAHA! What happened to me, I used to be nice, I still am a very nice person, it was normal for close friends to call me one of the nicest, accepting friends, accepting and befriending anyone for who they were. But being a step mom has brought out the worst in me, and is certainly the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I feel like Angelina Jolie in that movie where the police give her a kid that is not hers and he’s calling her “mom”, she throws a pan at the wall and shrieks, “I’m NOT YOUR MOTHER, DON’T CALL ME THAT!!!”. That’s what I want to do when he calls me mom. Instead I shutter inside, and on the outside, I smile sweetly and say, Yes? This is what my life will be from now on because I married a good guy who already had a kid.
Okay, you can probably immediately see why I emailed in questions to be submitted to Kaine Horman on this. A stepmother with a small daughter “putting up with” her stepson and voicing hatred and wishes of him choking to death….kind of set off sirens for me. So I submitted the following questions (in so many words):
1. Did Kyron have a speech impediment, but more importantly did Terri ever say SHE thought he had one?
2. Was there ever an incident in which the family was out at a buffet, Kyron choked, and Kaine had to assist him in order to help him stop choking?
The answer came back “No to both.”
So, I don’t THINK this is Terri Horman, but I have not been able to set aside this post. Because what IF it does voice some of the thinking that could have been going through her head. What IF she did really want Kyron to go live with Desiree but she didn’t want to see the loss in income? After all, if a child goes to live with the other parent it isn’t just a loss of the child support you recieve, it is DOUBLE that loss because you begin to pay it to the other parent. Could this hideous post hold insight into what may have happened in Terri’s head? Was she “faking sincerity” in her stepmotherly role while all the while harboring deep hatred, even wishes of harm to Kyron?
I don’t know. And I’m not trying to accuse her of such. But this post, ever since I discovered it, has haunted me and I just wonder if it holds insight into what could be a motive. So I submit it as a starter for discussion. IF Terri did something with or to Kyron, what WAS her motive? Or could it be she really is just another eraser killer?
Valhall.
Related posts:
- Kyron Horman case: Terri Horman reported to have solicited murder-for-hire
- Kyron Horman case: Terri neglected the Kyron factor
- Kyron Horman case: Terri Horman ‘do the right thing’
- Kyron Horman case: Authorities provided ‘probable cause’ on Terri Horman
- Kyron Horman case: Desiree says about Terri – ‘I know she’s lying.’
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